fix: unblock manual recall metadata patching

[TurboTheTurtle]

Summary

• return manual memory_recall results before best-effort access-metadata patches settle
• preserve the existing governance patch and resolved scope filter
• log rejected background patches without changing a successful recall result
• cover stalled and rejected metadata writes with focused regression tests

Fixes #925

Verification

• node --test test/recall-text-cleanup.test.mjs test/auto-recall-timeout.test.mjs test/memory-governance-tools.test.mjs — 41 passed
• npm run verify-package-runtime
• npm run test:packaging-and-workflow
• git diff --check

[app3apps]

Reviewed head f547fc5. Moving best-effort access metadata patches off the manual-recall response path directly addresses the reported timeout, matches the established auto-recall pattern, and the full test suite passes. I found no blocking issue.

Non-blocking follow-ups:

• The detached patch also resets suppression/governance fields, not only telemetry, so the code comment should describe the broader best-effort semantics.
• Deferral widens the read-modify-write window for access_count, which can undercount closely sequenced recalls.

The branch is behind current master, but GitHub currently reports it as clean and mergeable.